Monday, March 7, 2016
Feminist Internet: Men Proposing to Women Is Rape Culture
According to a piece in the feminist blog Bustle, the tradition of men proposing women is “problematic” because it “perpetuates rape culture.”
Yes — not “problematic” because it perpetuates recklessly emotional social media posts, but because it “perpetuates rape culture.”
“The stereotype that men must get women to date them or marry them or sleep with them and that it’s up to women to respond can be problematic — not just because it discourages women from going after what they want, but also because it encourages men to pursue what they want at a woman’s expense,” Suzannah Weiss writes in a piece titled “6 Marriage Traditions That Reinforce Rape Culture.”
“Putting what men pursue over what women want perpetuates rape culture,” she continues. Uh. First of all, by saying “date them or marry them or sleep with them,” Weiss is putting propositions for sex in the same category as marriage proposals. FYI: A man asking you for sex is not the same thing as him asking you to spend the rest of your life with him, and if you can’t understand that, then you have some pretty disappointing mornings awaitng you in your future.
Second of all, “pursue what they want at a woman’s expense”? “Putting what men pursue over what women want”?
How the hell does this even make sense? Is Weiss under the impression that dudes propose by saying, “Marry me, or else!” or “I want to marry you. Say yes, or you’ll never see the cat again!”? Because as far as I know, it’s usually something more like “Will you marry me?” and it costs the woman literally nothing to say...
Read more HERE