90 Miles From Tyranny : Cosmopolitan Hates For Women To Orgasm If Men Enjoy It Too

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Saturday, March 25, 2017

Cosmopolitan Hates For Women To Orgasm If Men Enjoy It Too

Cosmopolitan has a long history of giving young women bad advice about how to deal with the young men in their lives, but they really outdid themselves with this spectacularly bad advice: “Why Guys Get Turned on When You Orgasm—and Why That’s a Bad Thing.”

Wait, what?

Hannah Smothers writes:

It’s not enough that men are already having more orgasms than women. To make matters worse, a new study published in the Journal of Sex Research found—aside from deriving pleasure from their own orgasms, obviously—men also derive a specific sort of masculine pleasure from making female partners orgasm. The researchers in the study, Sara Chadwick and Sari van Anders, refer to this incredibly predictable phenomenon as a “masculinity achievement.” I’m not exactly sure what that means, but I imagine a “masculinity achievement” looks something like Super Mario punching a coin out of one of those floating boxes in the video game….
“Despite increasing focus on women’s orgasms, research indicated that the increased attention to women’s orgasms may also serve men’s sexuality, complicating conceptualizations of women’s orgasms as women-centric,” researchers wrote.
In other news, there’s a widespread caricature of feminists as joyless scolds who hate men and want to outlaw fun. I have no idea where this could possibly have come from.

It’s easy to make fun of this article, so I can’t resist just one more. Alternate Cosmo headline: “Five Techniques for Mindblowing Sex—Unless the Guy Enjoys it, Too, Then Maybe Not.” But it’s worth investigating where this particular bit of insanity comes from, because there’s a deeper cause behind it that’s not funny at all.
Don’t Make Doing What Women Want a Bad Thing

First, let’s start by acknowledging that it’s absolutely correct that men enjoy bringing their partners to orgasm and regard this as an achievement that gives us a special thrill. (Pssst, don’t tell the feminist hall monitors, but women enjoy doing that, too.) The only thing this report adds to that rather obvious observation is its pinch-nosed, disapproving interpretation. For men, this is like “like Super Mario punching a coin out of one of those floating boxes in the video game.” As one commenter added, “Actually closer to when Mario gets the high point on the flagpole with a 6 in the time spot. Fireworks and fanfare included.” Achievement unlocked.

Men tend to be goal-directed and task-oriented. For decades, we have been specifically warned that it’s unfair for men to have orgasms while their partners remain unfulfilled, and some of us have taken that to heart and decided that if this is the metric we’re supposed to meet, by God we’re gonna meet it. Heck, we’re gonna exceed it. And we’re going to take pride in that achievement.

But notice the way Smothers describes that in a belittling, dismissive way, meant to make all of us eager men look like clueless bros playing a video game. Rephrase it without those dismissive terms, and yes, of course sex is about enjoying one’s ability to achieve a goal. That’s the whole point. That is specifically what the orgasm is about. It is joyous effort reaching toward a climax.




Ayn Rand, who was famous for the sex scenes in her novels, wrote a great description of an orgasm (and from a woman’s perspective): “then she knew nothing but the motion of his body and the driving greed that went reaching on and on, as if she were not a person any longer, only a sensation of endless reaching for the impossible—then she knew that it was possible, and she gasped and lay still, knowing that nothing more could be desired, ever.” If you feel like you need a cigarette after reading that, Ayn Rand would have approved.

So no, it’s not like Super Mario. It’s like climbing Everest. It’s like crossing the finish line of a marathon. It’s the ultimate reward for effort. Ideally, in a good relationship, this is a cooperative effort, two bodies working together for a common goal—which includes the man caring about the woman’s pleasure. After all, he loves her and wants her to be happy. Really, really happy. Twice.
How Can You Dislike Mutual Satisfaction?
So if everyone is enjoying themselves, what is there to complain about? The question answers itself. Everyone is enjoying themselves, and even worse, they’re enjoying themselves together. It’s the ultimate win-win, and we can’t let that happen.

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5 comments:

Doom said...

Who cares. I never cared. Like? Whatever. I like a lot of things. But, really, deep down? I never cared if she had an orgasm. And, later in life? I actually understand if I am to have more access, she has to not have an orgasm as often. I put the ratio at about 3 or 4 for me, to her 1, or she stops responding. You can tell she needs it when she starts turning both blue and red in the face at once. :p

Seriously. As to advice for young women? All women are neurotic, more so about some things. What they think, what they are told, and all else just... doesn't matter. Nothing makes sense to them, they don't believe anything, they think (especially on some matters) with their feelings. It just doesn't matter. Then again? I'll bet that mag is bought by old hens trying to relive their "glory days" and queers trying to figure out how to be a girl. Girls and young women, at least typical ones, simply have no such loyalty or interest.

Kimberwarrior45 said...

Love the screen shot from Fantastic Planet with this article.

J- said...

OMG somebody else who knows that movie!

Mike Miles said...

Yeah, I love that Movie. That scene is also very erotic, that's why I included it.
I posted before about the movie: http://ninetymilesfromtyranny.blogspot.com/2013/06/fantastic-planet.html

Unknown said...

@ Jacob

Yep! And they tend to pass the knowledge on to their spawn...